Selah.
Grief manifests itself in many ways, especially in isolation. And because grief is a necessity to good health, [some] isolation is as well. Though it is not wise to forcefully graft the bereaved into the company of others against their wishes, simply because of our discomfort with their darkness. If we are not willing to enter into their dark space - but for a moment, and sit with them, allowing ourselves to serve as an illuminating light, we stand instead as judgment bearers. Yes, [some] community is needed for a collective undergirding of love and support. However, integrate the bereaved into the wrong community at the wrong time, and the very same can be most harmful; causing a delay or stagnation to the process. More than being pulled into the space of others, what the bereaved need most is meaning-making time and personal God-Talk. They need God, space, time, and tough skinned persons with whom they can openly be and say without condemnation. If they don't join you in their social gatherings, that is okay. Join them where ever they are willing to meet you, on their terms and their on their turf.
Selah.
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About the AuthorKay Jenkins is a native of New Jersey. She is a pastoral counselor and chaplain by trade, with a strong musical background. Dr. Kay completed her undergraduate studies at Rutgers University, earning a bachelors in Sociology, and also holds dual Masters from Emory University, as well as an earned doctorate from The Ecumenical Theological Seminary of Michigan. Kay is most sought for her oratory, literary, and musical gifts. She is a published songwriter, author. freelance and ghost writer who writes under several pen names. Kay resides in Ohio. Archives
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